Self confidence isn’t about being the loudest or biggest personality in the room.
It actually means not caring about how loud or quiet you are. It means focusing on your happiness above all.
If you constantly sit there and wonder what other people are thinking and comparing yourself to them and using this as a benchmark of where you feel you should be, then this isn’t self confidence.
Rewire your through patterns, try something new such as art, knitting, music etc. Find something that supports your patterns. That is when you really begin to feel confident.